Domestic Duties: Ok, just to clarify for those who have written to me, this is not a list of chores given to me by MC (does it really matter?). This is just a list of things I’ve done today. I do not enjoy housework. But, I do enjoy making a nice home for MC. MC wouldn’t know where to start, to make a chore list.
Clean bike and exercise equipment
Take out garbage
Clean dining table
Clean out refrigerator
Help DD with homework
I’ve been researching dental and vision programs, as well as Flexible spending accounts that are available through MC’s work. It’s really sort of complicated. But, we are really so fortunate to have these options. DD just got braces, which is going to be $4000, MC needs some dental work done to the tune of $2000 – and MC also needs new glasses. We were doing fine with just medical insurance, but now it seems time to get the dental and vision. The flexible spending account will take the $ out of his paycheck pre-tax and make it available for us to use for medical expenses. In fact, this particular FSA makes 100% of our allowance available as of January 1st. So if we choose to allot $5000 to the account, $5000 will be available as of January 1st – we don’t have to wait until it’s withdrawn from his paycheck at the rate of $415 per month. It’s the perfect way to budget these big expenses and we avoid paying some taxes, which always feels good. I wonder if medical weight loss center services are eligible expenses. No, I’m not talking gastric bypass- I’m not even eligible – but perhaps a medically supervised weight loss program would be useful. I’m a lucky girl, to have a husband with such a good job.
I was thinking today, about DD, and her braces and all of the expenses that come with a child. DD is not MC’s biological child. Some would be surprised to know this, because he takes care of her as if she were. He never complains that she costs so much, or about what she needs. He has never said she is not his child. She is 100% his child, as far as we are concerned. We are so fortunate to have him in our lives. MC does not have any biological children, but he makes such a good father, he is one of the few men who probably should have. If he ever said he wanted another child, I would do my very best to do it for him. I’m not sure it would be possible, at my age, and with my reproductive history – but I would certainly give it a shot. Then again, MC might just be looking forward to the time when DD is grown, and he and I can have more alone-time. I know I am. I’m even looking forward to the time when DD has a more active social life and can be gone for a while…
DD does know her biological father, but has only met him once. He makes little effort to be involved with her, and seems to avoid her. He certainly does not pay child support (I’ve received about $400 in 12 years) or pay his half of medical expenses. I don’t even try to enforce it, because it’s not going to happen. That said, Support Kids Inc is the only organization I’ve found that has been able to collect anything from him. No, he still doesn’t pay the full $200 per month, but he usually winds up paying a little – $40…$50 – which is better than nothing. I got nothing for the first 9 years of DD’s life. Then, I signed up for Support Kids. They located him, and they have gotten him to acknowledge his responsibility in a small way. They do charge a percentage, but 15% of zero is zero, so they are motivated to collect.
Today I did the Billy Blanks workout, and rode the stationary bike. This was the first day I’ve been able to ride the bike since Monday, since sitting on it would have hurt too much. Even today, I didn’t do it very long.
I think if I lived in older times, I wouldn’t have such poor body image. My husband does not ever tell me I’m fat, and my clothes fit – I’m active and able to do things – so if I didn’t have the scale and the weight charts telling me what I should weigh, I wonder if I would know how fat I am? Then again, if I was living on a farm, raising 5-10 children and making my own clothes- maybe I wouldn’t be overweight. But then, from what I can tell, being plump and pale were signs of wealth, and were considered beautiful. I know very well that MC doesn’t want me super skinny. Who would want to spank a boney butt? He just wants me healthy, and to feel good about my body. Right now, I don’t. I am aiming for 130-140, which will be about a size 7 on my frame.
Speaking of butts, I think Cookie Crawford would be the most fun “type” to spank. Not fat, not thin – just right. Not that I’ve ever spanked anyone since I reached adulthood. I’m just imagining, that’s all.
Breakfast: Honey Nut Cheerios
During the day: Coffee and Water
Dinner: Black Beans, Salsa and Spinach pasta
To be Tied….
Christian DD: These websites have some of the best descriptions of the way a husband should take control, and spank his wife. Although I’m intrigued by these discussions, I also realize that the authors are just making an excuse for their kink. Sure, punishment spankings can be very real – but are we really trying to say the bible says we should do it? I don’t think God cares, one way or another, if a husband spanks his wife. He might care, however, that some are trying to twist what he has said, just to fit what they want to do.
Pantaloons: Someday, I’m going to get a pair of drop seat pajamas. It’s not that MC has any kind of difficult time baring my bottom – but drop seat pajamas remind me that he can…and with something that fun, he probably would more often. I’ll buy them when I can buy them in a fun size- like a 10.