This week, I’ve been reading about various relationships. Some are great, and make me happy. Others make me sad. It’s made me appreciate my own relationship. MC plays so many roles, and I would like to point them out.
Provider: MC has enabled me to work at home, and basically be a work-at-home mom. MC works full time at his “real” job and earns a good living. He has been at the same company for more than 20 years. He is a hard worker, and never tries to do less than anyone else. In fact, he has taken on the role of Shop Steward/Union Representative at his office. This takes a lot of time, effort and patience. He is a gracious advocate for his co-workers, when there have been times that he needed an advocate and didn’t get one.
Boss: Yes, MC is my boss where I work! This is his “second” job and my primary job. He is extremely helpful and is a great motivator when my motivation diminishes.
Writer: MC has a “third” job. MC stays up late every night, writing and promoting his books. He writes bdsm/spanking books as well as mainstream novels. He has worked hard to perfect his art, and it has paid off.
Lover: MC is a generous and first-rate lover. He has a high awareness of my limits and comfort levels. He is significantly endowed, which took some getting used to on my part. Of course, that physical aspect of him makes even vanilla sex a little edgy. He has always taken our physical capabilities and levels of experience into consideration. J Before I met MC, I had never experienced any sort of bondage or anal sex. He has patiently trained me to tolerate these things and actually find pleasure in them.
Spanker: MC is my disciplinarian. MC is not a wimpy spanker. He has large strong hands, and he uses them to their full capability. A medium strength hand spanking from him is equal to many hard paddle spankings I’ve seen. He knows what I can take, and what my limits are. I have never had to use a safeword, and I don’t even have one. (“Oh, ow, that’s enough” doesn’t count apparently!). He’s not afraid to test my limits and take me further than I ever thought possible.
Mentor / Strength: MC is my best friend. MC is a rock. Countless times, MC has brought me “back down” when I thought all hope was lost. Whether I was frustrated by work, family, DD, school, whatever, he always had a solution or something to strengthen my resolve. We met back in 1998, and when the world was “supposed to end” on January 1, 2000, MC was right there, telling me nothing was going to change. Being the nervous person I am, I was glued to the television set, convinced the world would blow up. MC came to my house (another 5 hour drive!) and spent the weekend with me. He is very wise, and mentally steady. I never have to worry what mood he’ll be in, or what I’ll have to deal with.
Father: Since he met DD in 1998, (when she was two years old) he has been her father figure. At that time, DD had never met her biological father, and for 9 years, MC was the only male figure in her life. DD has since met her biological father once, but her relationship is so much stronger with MC. DD never has to worry that MC is going to leave her, or hurt her. He is her provider, and confidant. DD is so fortunate to have MC as her step-father and she knows it. Even when she tests his patience, he is kind and forgiving.
Loyal Husband: When I first met MC, I told him that I didn’t expect him to be exclusive to me since I lived so far away- but I requested that he tell me if he was being intimate with any other woman. He spent 4 years driving 5 hours one way to see me every weekend (that’s 208 trips!) and I don’t doubt his faithfulness, even during those times. In 2002, I moved in with MC, and times were tough – I was scared, and jealous, and a nervous wreck, but he was still faithful. We were married in 2005, and I believe he will be faithful throughout our lives together. This does not mean that we cannot play with other people – we can, together. We will not, however, have sex with other people. That would be dangerous and a violation of our vows.
Thank you, MC for all that you are, and all that you do.
Love ALWAYS, your tigger